Do you have life skills that you know you can excel at but leave them out with no intention of mastering them? Mine is driving, baking, and replacing light bulbs. It’s not without reason because I have a very reasonable and grounded explanation for this.

Technically I can drive. But I already feel enough about my driving ability even though I can’t park. Because in case of an emergency, I’ll still be able to drive somewhere and ask the valet service to do the rest. And I enjoy my inability to drive because I won’t be asked to drive on long trips, so I can always sit in the passenger seat.

While in baking, my skills almost reached 0 since I didn’t even understand the basics, like distinguishing the purpose of different types of flour. And I have no desire to learn it because I think I can still survive without it. So if one day I’m craving something sweet, which is rare, I can get it at the nearest bakery at any time.

My inability to replace the light bulb is one of my ways to stay dependent on others. Because then I can give space in my life for others to fill without threatening my existence. Being in a dark room for a few days wasn’t a big deal. I could ask for help to replace it the very next day.

But don’t doubt my efforts to master what I think is essential. I could spend years learning it without giving up, even though it developed very slowly.

So, in which part of your life will you let me in?